The Recipe


I must be frank – I’ve been playing a lot less dress-up.

Not because I’m not actually dressing up. (I make a point to do that. Every day.) It’s because there’s a lot less guesswork in reaching for my wardrobe in the morning these days. My style has crystalized into something that I hope communicates my essence, wordlessly, in just a glance. It’s a style that I want to project a statement about who I am without distracting from what’s going on inside. (I’ve also been wearing a lot less heels.)

Translate to: function, fit, and flair, in that order.

I’ve got a booty and strong shoulders,  so my aim is always to emphasize the hourglass. I reach for straight legged pants that sit above my hips (mostly these from Levi’s), or high waisted skirts that hit at the smallest point of my waist, just below the ribs. Worn with button-ups and sweaters borrowed from the boys, or something strappy or cropped to show off the girls, I always top the look off with a great jacket (and a scarf, duh) to define my shoulders.

Versions of these pieces in clear reds, denim blues, sandy brown animal prints, or stripes and polka dots in black, white, gray, and navy make it easy to mix and match. (Though I’m always willing to throw in some turquoise, or cobalt, or hot pink…)

It also makes shopping easy – I  look for updates that work with my preexisting MVP items, things that play nicely with what I already own. The red pleated skirt I just scored at Francesca’s Collections (which sells 50 Ways to Wear  A Scarf- amazing!!) will pair seamlessly with all the American Apparel cropped tanks I bought last summer.  Same with the new Chuck Taylors that already get along swimmingly with my skinny jeans, since they hit at the same spot on my leg as all my ankle boots. It’s about identifying the silhouettes and fits that make you feel your best and then playing within those parameters.

Then it’s time to add the spice. How about some sparkle with gold hoops? Some smoke with a flick of eggplant-colored eyeliner? Maybe a choker that your friend bought you from a dominatrix shop or a woven clutch you accidentally stole from a street vendor in Rome?

Accessories are the easy part, the basics are anything but.

First Look! 50 Ways to Wear a Scarf Trailer

Can you believe it? They make book promo videos these days.

I want to thank Nic Weinfeld, the director, for making my life seem way cooler than it actually is, and all my beautiful DC friends for helping out and looking so fly on camera.

A special thanks to Blind Dog Cafe, Union Kitchen, GoodWood DC, and Cherry Blossom Creative for allowing us to shoot in their space.

If you’re interested, here’s a link to the song.

And have you bought 50 Ways to Wear a Scarf yet? Head to Amazon, or may I also suggest heading to your friendly local bookstore and asking them to order you a copy.

Inside the Making of 50 Ways to Wear a Scarf



Have you bought your copy of 50 Ways to Wear a Scarf yet??

Honestly, it’s a scary time for me. This book just lived in my head and in my journal for the past year and a half, and now it’s time to share it with the world.




I’m not joking when I say that while writing it, I actually forgot that anyone would read it besides me and my editor.

When I opened the real, live book for the first time and read the introduction, I felt such a wave of embarrassment! It was like reading my private journals out loud. Or like being in that dream where you show up in front of class and you forgot your clothes.

Truth be told, the whole thing started in my black Moleskine.



Everything: the outline, the words, the sketches, every plan for every outfit and every scarf and every manic little note I every yelled at myself. Everything.

No surprise here, I just think better with a pencil in my hand!

50 Ways to Wear a Scarf is available NOW on and wherever books are sold.

Holy crap.


50 Ways to Wear a Scarf, by Lauren Friedman.


So, here’s the big news.

For the past year, I have labored through the formidable task of writing and illustrating a book, which is now available for preorder on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and IndieBound. It is called 50 Ways to Wear a Scarf, and I am incredibly overwhelmed and grateful to have had the opportunity to create it.

If you had told me a year ago that I would be on my way to becoming a published author, I would have laughed in your face. (And if you had told my seven-year old self, I would have nodded solemnly and asked, “when, and how?”)

I am thankful for the good people at Chronicle Books, the friends, family, and loved ones who had to deal with me and my deadlines, and most importantly, for the regular visitors of My Closet in Sketches. It was because of one little post that a big thing like a book was made. I am so honored to be able to share a piece of my heart, something you can hold in your hands, a real, live, dog-ear-the-pages BOOK. About scarves! How amazing is that! To me, it’s a gift to you, dear readers, for sticking around and enjoying this site after all these years.

50 Ways to Wear a Scarf will officially be shipped on February 11, but pre-order it now, and tell all your friends! The more copies the merrier!  While the book will not be available in time for the holidays, I’d recommend printing out your order and the cover and wrapping it with a beautiful scarf to gift to that special someone… (Mom? Grandma? Coworker? Fellow scarf wearer?)

February 11 will be here before we know it!

Click here to preorder on Amazon

Click here to preorder on Barnes & Noble

Click here to preorder on Indiebound


How To Shop The Men’s Department


Hello, it’s me again!

These last few months have been a reshuffling of priorities, a reorganizing of time, a period of reflection and realizing.

With that vagueness out of the way… one thing that definitely remains the same is a respect for the men’s section. Or boyfriend’s/dad’s/brother’s closet – just ask permission first!

That’s my dad’s old tee from a running race on the “Old Kent Riverbank” – it’s so worn and loved, perfectly sheer and beautifully drapey. I always wear it with a pretty bra and close fitting jeans.

For Christmas one year, my brother gave me the flannel button down, from the J. Crew men’s department, worn here over a gray thermal.

The sweatshirt, paired with a gold chain link necklace from Banana Republic, was bought at the Austin menswear store Stag (my best friend Laura got a matching one). Truly, this place was one of the finest-feeling retail establishments I’ve ever had the pleasure of visiting. Old Playboy magazines, woodsy and lemony soaps, perfect sweatshirts, hot dudes with beards. And! A puppy waiting on the bench outside. Heaven!

That red hat is from American Eagle, boys, by way of TJMaxx, men. The RayBans (unisex, polarized) are a forever love, and the hoops are from the corner store.

The belt, cinched over a chambray shirt dress from Target, I picked up in high school from the Old Navy men’s department. It is, in two words, broken in.

Those boxers are also from J. Crew men, and yes, I bought them new.